Sturggljng with my dad

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I am struggling a little bit at the moment and don't really know where to turn to. Last year my dad was diagnosed with stomach cancer and is on palliative chemotherapy at the moment. I no longer live at home, and currently working in a hospital with covid patients. I haven't seen him since the summer last year as im so paranoid. My mum is doing an amazing job looking after him but I have a massive guilt not being around and I know my dad is struggling alot with nausea and fatigue. I am just wondering if anyone is in a similar situation and have any ideas to help. 

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    I am sorry about you dad. My dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer July 2020 and I am currently living with him and my mom to help care and assist in anyway that I can but at the end of the day it feels like I’m not doing enough. I feel guilty that I feel healthy and he doesn’t. He is in a lot of pain and hurts to stand up and use the restroom. Yesterday he refused to go to a dermatologist for a lump that appeared because he felt it was too painful to make the trip. He spends the majority of the time laying down because of how much pain he is in. He refused to eat dinner last night because he didn’t want to get up to use the bathroom because of how much pain he is in. The only thing that I keep telling myself is that I am doing enough and I am doing the best that I can and hopes that I will start believing it. By you staying away your keeping him safe just make sure you let him know daily that you love and are thinking of him. Sending him care packages with things he likes. Hang in there stay strong