Hi,
I’m new to all this and need somewhere to discuss my current situation. I’m 37 with a 2 year old daughter and my partner has been diagnosed with stage 3 bowel cancer. There was a huge delay in getting the diagnosis because of the original lockdown and it came as quite a shock to both of us.
he seemed to cope better while he was working but when he started chemo and radiotherapy he stopped as it would have been impossible to keep him safe with covid. He did 5 weeks of radio and chemotherapy with an emergency stay in hospital just before treatment and then another emergency stay 3 weeks in where he had a colostomy bag fitted. He’s got on really well with the bag and completed the treatment but had scans yesterday. His surgeon reviewed them there and then as he was having under arm pain. The cancer hasn’t spread but it also hasn’t shrunk as much as they’d hoped and not away from his spine and pelvis like they’d hoped it would. So looks like no operation which he had pinned everything on. They have confirmed they are currently cancelling cancer operations anyway because of covid. He is now incredibly down. He seemed to think he would be “fixed” soon which was completely unrealistic really. He’s now facing more chemo but via IV this time. He’s now taking his frustrations out on me with some verbal outbursts and whilst i am trying to be sympathetic i am finding it hard to balance and protect my two year old from his shouting. I’m at a loss as to how to help him. I’ve managed to persuade him to speak to the NHS psychology service and got him an appointment after a 10 week wait. I just feel lost with all of this at the moment.
