Husband prostate cancer

Hi Danni0103 

Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.

Dealing with cancer all anyone can do is make the best decision with the information we have at the time. Different people will of course make different decisions and neither of them is wrong. The nearest I get personally is a benign enlarged prostrate though the vague positive in that is I do get an annual PSA test just in case.

A colleague of mine came into my office one day though as he had just been diagnosed, he had a lifestyle where he worked part time between the UK and Spain as was concerned as to if he could continue - he decided on the operation too and seemed to cope ok after a while. 

I know one thing I had to learn with my wife's cancer was to make some space for me too, that being a rock is great until we find we start to crumble.

<<hugs>>

Steve

Im the wife of a lovely man who had radical robotic prostectomy 5 weeks ago, catheterised for 2 weeks and has been incontinent ever since, no urge to urinate and getting through 7 ish pull up pants a day and also have to change overnight - he  was told by the consultant this could last 6 months and in which case he would provide surgery for a sling in the bladder, has anyone else experience this. looking at changing from pull ups to conveen 

Thank you Steve. You’re right, thank you, I have to make time for me too, and I do. Work is so important, my hobbies too. I reached out for help from his brother during this particularly awful time and got nothing back. This was my first time of asking and now I know I’m on own. But it’s ok, I will deal with my husband’s situation while looking after myself and us. Being part of this community will help me 

Hi jayfarmer, My husband also had a catheter for 2 weeks post surgery. He was incontinent for maybe 10 weeks post surgery. He was good about doing pelvic floor exercises and gained control fairly quickly. He’s 4 months on now and there’s still occasional accidents. Has your hubby been taught about pelvic floor exercises? Initially mine thought that because he had a physical job he wouldn’t need to!