Hi all
It's 4am, awake for 3 hours now and no sign of any sleep for the rest of the night.
I don't even know if this is the right place to begin. My mom has been diagnosed with terminal cancer of the oesophagus on Monday. She had only been getting 'indigestion' 5 weeks ago, a course of antibiotics did nothing to a suspected stomach infection so an endoscopy 2 weeks ago showed a tumour, a week later confirmed cancer cells and Monday just past, terminal. Naturally, we are all devastated. We have never experienced anyone we know go through cancer so I have no idea about how it's all going to continue except sheer pain and sadness. I have no idea on her entitlement to anything so any advice would be much appreciated. I want her to have the best of everything and anything she's entitled to to make the best of what time we have left.
Stay safe everyone xx
Hi and welcome to the community though so sorry to hear about your mom. I cannot think there is anyone on here who has not had at some point the being awake in the small hours of the morning so really feel for you.
In terms of how things might be going forward I learnt the hard way to concentrate on the here and now rather than looking too far in to the future. For what she is entitled to it might be easiest to post a message in our (Missing Forum) though if your mum and whoever looks after her needs they are entitled to a needs assessment and a carers assessment.
My wife's cancer is very different and is incurable but we have been living with cancer now for over six years. For me the living with less stress course I did was the best thing ever, we are definitely now living with cancer and for my wife she only has a check up every 9 months or so. For our relationship it has made it stronger than ever and we can enjoy life.
Hope things become clearer for you and your mum.
<<hugs>>
Steve
