Losing my sister to cancer

Hi Lucy,

sorry to hear about how you are feeling, I found with the loss of my parents it was often triggers that were simply unexpected the hardest to cope with. It is important too to note there is no right and wrong when it comes to grieving but I can see from what you write how both covid and distance have made things more difficult for you.

I wonder how close your children might have been to hers, would video calls be a possibility perhaps even playing games together, that might work for all the children and I am sure it could be helpful to your brother-in-law too.

If you decide you want some help with the grieving process two charities that come with some recommendations are cruse bereavement care and the loss foundation.  

<<hugs>>

Steve

Hello Lucy,

I lost my sister in 2018, she was 54 & her children were 15 & 12, sadly she lived abroad & I arrived too late to be with her which still upsets me, I find Birthdays, special occasions you always think of them, silly things at any time will pop into your head but that shows how much you cared & loved for them, I have found covid hard too it gives you time to think more & not being able to pick up the phone & chat makes it worse. I think covid has just amplified things, it's still very recent for you, be easy on yourself, phone the help lines they do help.

Take care of yourself

Hugs x

Thank you Steve, grieving is such a hard experience. Even though we knew she was poorly it’s still the shock of it all. 

My children are younger although we do try video call once a well. 

thank you for the message and sorry for the loss of your parents. I have signed up for some counseling and hoping that will help. 

Lucy x