My husband had his prostate removed due to cancer and he’s been 7 1/2 years clear he’s been told it’s come back and I’m absolutely petrified he’s started hormone treatment but I feel constantly sick and I’m worrying all the time I seem to be constantly having negative thoughts, I don’t think it’s helped as my dad died last July after being diagnosed with lung cancer, he died four weeks after but not from the cancer but the chemo caused him to have a stroke I feel lost
Hi and welcome to the community, though sorry to hear about your husband and your dad. I think in your situation feeling lost is really quite normal. I can relate a bit to the issues around chemotherapy as my wife's first round caused a lung to collapse - great at killing the cancer cells but not so good when it was a key part of her lung!
When Janice was first diagnosed I really struggled and the lung collapse did not help. I did however manage to secure a place on a course on living with less stress and it helped me realise I was living in fear of a future I could not control and that was stopping me enjoying what we had and also meant I could not support her as much as I would like.
It might help to drop by our Prostate cancer forum and see all the people there, I am sure there will be people in a similar situation to your husband and that might help to reassure you that there is hope for the future. If you look at our pages Looking after someone with cancer especially the bits around coping and your feelings you will I am sure recognise many of the issues you face.
I wonder if it might help to talk to someone about how you feel? You are more than welcome to ring the helpline here 0808 808 0000.
<<hugs>>
Steve
