Devastated by my mums now terminal lung cancer

Hi  and welcome to the online community

I'm very sorry to read that you have recently discovered that your mum's lung cancer is terminal. It must be an incredibly hard time for her and all the family especially in these socially distanced times.

I can see that you've found and joined the supporting someone with incurable cancer group and I'm sure if you post there you'll find both emotional support and advice on practical matters from others who are in the same position as you.

Feeling overwhelmed when learning of your mum's diagnosis is perfectly natural but you may want to think about speaking to your GP for help as you've said that you "think about it every waking minute" and it sounds like you're having difficulty sleeping to. 

You say that you're worried that your mum's partner will be going back to work soon and you live too far away to be able to help. Your mum's GP has overall responsibility for her care at home so, if she hasn't already, she could speak to her GP about what help is available.

Sending a virtual ((hug))

Thank you.

My sleeping has always been a little iffy shall we say,its just now if I wake its my mum that I'm thinking about,its the constant feeling of anxiety in my guts that's there all the time nearly too.

I hate to say this but I have dealt with my mums GP on a few occasions and I have to say they are not very good at all,I wont go into it but no experience has been a good one and even worse leading upto this diagnosis my mum was fobbed off for months,so unfortunately I have no faith in them at all.

I have now managed to get the palliative care nurse team involved the last couple of weeks which is what was very needed.

Thank you I will look to post in that group.x