In the space of one week my dad was taken to hospital after collapsing at work to finally coming out on Monday with a diagnosis of lung and brain which we thought was treatable to finding out at the hospital appointment at about Tuesday lunchtime that all they can do is prolong his life as it’s more spread . Sorry for the rambling but I’m writing this while in tears as at the moment it’s just hard because all I want is to hug my dad but I know I can’t . Don’t get me wrong I got to bring him home to my mum and we took him to his hospital appointment. It’s just a lot to take in a space of seven days especially if you’re the oldest child of three and everyone in the family ( aunts,etc) are more worried about how the other two daughters ( there’s 3ofus)are going to take it as they are much closer . Again sorry but I feel I can offload on here hopefully without judgement because it sucks and I’m trying to be strong for my parents and my own little family
Hi and welcome to the online community
I'm not surprised that your head is in a spin after all you and your family have been through in the past 7 days and I'm very sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis.
It's important that you take time to look after yourself and don't try and be strong for everyone else at the expense of you own health. You might like to take a look at this information from Macmillan on your feelings when someone has cancer and also this on how to look after yourself.
Could I suggest another group which you might find helpful for you to join. It's the supporting someone with incurable cancer group which is a safe and supportive place to discuss your emotions as well as talk about practical issues around caring for your dad.
To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post questions after selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
When you feel up to it, it would be really useful if you could pop something about your dad's journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Edit Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
Sending a supportive (((hug)))
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