Hi people. I'm not sure I'm aloud to do this but I want to share a link to my dads blog about his journey through dealing with bladder cancer.
Initially he was not going to deal with it and let it deal with him. He left the country, wife , friends and family, bought a caravan and was gonna live out his last days alone. In doing this and because he never told anyone what he was doing or how he was feeling he was accused of some very horrible and disturbing things that I wouldnt wish on anyone. And ofcourse hes not about to defend him self.
It was only after talking to some else with a similar condition ( a few weeks after leaving ) that he took a step back and thought about what he was doing and about the "what if I can beat it".
As soon as I found out I saved up some money applied for a passport and flew out to see him.
I can only urge any fella out there with similar personal issues to talk to someone, not to bottle it up and think that's it I'm done. There is always a chance and I'd say it's worth taking it. If not for yourself, for those you care about and those that care about you.
So here is the link to my dads blog.
https://bladdercancerandme.wordpress.com/
Please have a read and I hope his journey through this will help all those in similar situations. He hasnt beaten it yet but hes fighting to win.
Fingers crossed dad. I hope to see you again soon.
HI and welcome to the community though sorry to hear about your dad and the impact this has had on your family and having read through your dads blog I cannot see anything anyone with the slightest degree of compassion could object to.
To me is sounds like your dad initially out of shock and love wanted to shelter you all from harm, that is quite a common reaction when people hear they have cancer and feel "well that is it then". I am so glad he found someone with a similar condition, that is in many ways why we are all here and your dad does sound so sensible and even humorous in some of his writing, we even have a group here Laughter is the best medicine.
One thing we do often find though is family and friends can struggle too, while you are perhaps not providing hands of care it might be helpful to you to look through the pages on looking after someone with cancer, especially the bits around the emotional effects.
You might also like to look at and possibly introduce yourself/your dad to our General Discussion there will be many people there at all stages of treatment.
Many thanks for sharing, keep safe and stay strong.
<<hugs>>
Steve
