Mum has moved to the hospice

FormerMember
FormerMember
  • 1 reply
  • 16 subscribers
  • 1040 views

I don’t post much but am struggling with quite a lot of guilt at the moment. My mum has terminal cancer - mouth and lungs. She has been in and out of hospital/hospice since early December but came home to us four weeks ago. Over the last week she has deteriorated quite a lot, losing all her strength in her legs, and we have been really struggling to look after her at home so I made the decision yesterday to move her back to the hospice. The thing is she has a temperature now so is being quarantined so I can’t even go and visit.  I feel awful now about moving her to the hospice - if I had known I would have tried to manage here for a bit longer. In my head I know it is best for her to be in the hospice but I still feel guilty about it. 

  • Hi,I really feel for you and can relate to the feelings of guilt.You have done your best for your mum and if you have been struggling then you have to do what you feel is right.It’s not easy at all though,I am struggling with the  guilt though my circumstances are different.I have cancer and normally care for my mother at home.She has been in a care home for almost a year and now I cannot visit due to lockdown.To hear mum crying on the phone is heartbreaking and I’m not sure she quite understands what is happening outside the home with all the restrictions.I wish I could help.I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in feeling guilty.Love and best wishes.Jane xx