Fear

FormerMember over 5 years ago

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Hello all ,

My partner was diagnosed with breast cancer last June, she is doing amazingly well ,chemo done ,surgery next week and all moving along perfect ...although it's been 6 months of madness !!!

She is a true inspiration, she was already very cool and beautiful, but moved up another level!!!

However, I on the other hand have convinced myself I now have any of the cancers ,Google is very dangerous!!

To the point it's taking over my life and to be honest it's quite embarrassing when it's the gaffer who has cancer !!!

So my point is , is there anyone who is feeling like this or similar??

I've had lots of tests , and the gp says "it's all good" of course I come away saying "he doesn't know what hes talking about ".

I will apologise now to actual cancer patients if this post seems anyway insensitive....

These aches and pains are driving me crackers !!!!

GRANNY59 over 5 years ago

Hi RJames and welcome to the forum. So glad to hear how well that your partner is doing thats great news.

I can only imagine how difficult this has been for you watching your partner go through this and yes I think we all jump to the wrong conclusions when we have aches and pains especially when Cancer comes into our lives when we dont expect it to.

Maybe its time to have a chat with someone about how you are feeling and be honest about where the concerns you have are coming from. You say for example that the GP says its all good but does the GP know what you are thinking and why? Maybe thats the conversation that you need to be having.

I cant think that anyone will think that you are being insensitive at all but what is happening for you is very real so you do need to talk with someone about it and find out where that fear is coming from. It may be that your partners diagnosis has rocked you more than you are thinking it has mentally/psychologically and I dont believe that you will be alone there at all.

Sending best wishes your way for now.x

FormerMember over 5 years ago in reply to GRANNY59

Hi there ,

Firstly thanks for replying,

I don't want to bug the gaffer with my own issues as she is actually the rock star in all of this and doesn't need my irrational thoughts clogging up the process, like you say this just popped up from nowhere and its very shocking!!!

And at the same time my mother was diagnosed with alzheimer's!!!

I'm just like .... "Really"

However my mother and beautiful Mrs are both rockstars and seem to just carry on....

I just think women are stronger full stop (don't tell them I said that)

I don't know your personal situation but I hope your well, and again thank you....

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