I don’t know how to speak to my family about how I feel.

Hi I understand where you are coming from. My mum is 82 and has secondary colon cancer which is in her liver and bones. She is living with me and my family at the mo which is very hard! We have no Idea how long she has left but is deteriorating quite fast, my uncle has also just be diagnosed with liver cancer and they can’t operate until next year as he is too weak. His daughter (my cousin) has breast cancer and just had a lump and lymph nodes removed last week. Her sister , my other cousin has just a baby almost 2 months early and whilst in hospital has discovered a lump on her breast! I feel like my world is falling apart, as we are a very small family and I find it very hard to talk about my feelings. On the outside I look like I’m coping but inside I’m a mess and when I’m alone in bed I can’t stop crying  I’m currently off work until after Christmas but dreading going back, as I’m currently trying to arrange care for my mum , hope you’re ok xx

God that’s awful! My grandad has skin and prostate cancer. My great nan and auntie have skin cancer and my uncle has bowel cancer. We also lost my great auntie nearly two years ago when her cancer spread all over. I have the small worry that my dad could have cancer, he’s terribly ill and can’t leave bed. It’s difficult, really difficult! My mom cares for my nan and we get money to pay for the things we need. You can get live in carers for when you go back to work if that’s something you’d look into. I’m always in tears, people think I’m mad, it’s worse at night alone. I’m so sorry to hear about your family it’s terrible. I hope everything gets easier for you Xx

I’m so sorry life is so unfair sometimes!! I’m trying to organise care at the moment but I just can’t imagine my mum being well enough to live alone at home.

Take care and I hope things improve for you too xx

Hi,

I’m so sorry to hear this and the other stories on this thread. 
it must be very hard for you and your nan to cope with that kind of news.

not quite the same but mum has Myeloma, bone marrow cancer, and has just started on chemo indefinitely. She’s been through so many treatments already and near death experiences and is absolutely terrified what will happen next. It is really hard to watch the ones you love suffer, and there isn’t anything you can do to fix it.

ive learnt that all you can do is be there to listen and to try and talk to them about the good things. Everyone is different I guess but I imagine it would apply to your gran that she may not like you to tell her to think positively given the situation, and I know my mum hates it when anyone says that. I think it’s more about trying to enjoy the days without thinking about cancer and letting them be down when they need to. 
thinking of you and anyone dealing with this awful disease 

x