My mum was diagnosed with scc of the tongue back in march, april she underwent 2 operations (14hours long and 5 hours long) feeding tube fitted, talking slightly, completed 33 sessions of RT in Leeds, which finished 6th August... we were ment to be on the journey out of all this but unfortunately mum gained a sore under her neck..along with a lump on the opposite side of her neck. Tests and scans have confirmed cancer is back.. even after a double neck dissection, letter to state NED...how?! Why?! Its now in her throat, has a tumour on her right collarbone, specks in her liver. She is 72 years old, chemo and surgery were no longer an option. Palliative care nurses are coming to see her today for the first time. I'm numb, I'm very unprepared, I feel like a vulnerable child again (I'm 35 with 3 daughters) dads at home with her, hes been amazing. My elder sister spoke to the consultant after we left and she asked how long...its my mums birthday the 24th December...consultants reply was "people usually hold on for certain dates". We may not get to see mum this christmas then...
What now 
