My sister’s lung cancer

FormerMember
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so it has been nearly 3 years since my sister was diagnosed and she has fought it every step of the way. Even from last May when she suffered a stroke she still bounced back. We felt guilty because we had no choice but to put her in a nursing home, she needed 24/7 care, but she did understand why we had to do it. Her wish was to stay at home but she is happy where she is. So over time we have watched her deteriorate and her bad days are outweighing her good days now. She has no pain so is comfortable but what do i say to her when she tells me that she is frightened. This is when i feel at my most useless as i cant stop her from being afraid. Any advice would be a great help so i can make her feel like she is not alone through this. Time is fading away from us x   

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    FormerMember

    it sounds as though its been a hard three years for all of you and sorry to hear that your sister has had the added problem of her stroke , no wonder we question the justice and fairness of life sometimes. I can also understand your feelings of being useless but my strongest suggestion is to continue being there for her as much as you can and continue providing her with your loving support. Her fear is totally understandable, don't give platitudes , accept and admit that it is a fearful time for all of you as no one knows what comes next, remind her constantly of how much you love her and that you always will. use this time to just be with each other and I hope you will , in time, take comfort from knowing that your sister knew she was loved.

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Thank you so much for them kind words. I never leave her side without telling her how much i love her. I see her every day and just sit and hold her hand. Life is cruel and it hurts so much seeing the ones we love go through so much with this awful disease.