Hi everyone
Just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience or can offer advice. My husband has recently been diagnosed with cancer. The prognosis is pretty good but I know the treatment will be intense and horrible. We have three young children.
He has demanded that I don’t tell anyone, even my family. I understand that he doesn’t want people gossiping about him but I O now feel very isolated. Since the diagnosis he has said some pretty mean things to me and I feel like a punch bag. He is not normally like this. I realise he is scared. I tried to talk to him about my anxiety and need to have someone to confide in but he just yelled at me and called me self-centred and selfish. He , on the other hand, had told several people and is receiving support from them. I k ow that I would be able to cope much better if I could tell at least one friend. I also k ow that they would be only too happy to help with childcare etc. Not telling them means that I am avoiding any interaction with them as I feel like if they ask how I am, I will burst into tears.
I dont mean to criticise my husband. I’m just feeling very alone and anxious.
Any ideas?
Hi and welcome to the community. Your story is not uncommon and perhaps the simplest option might be to show him your post and explain how his actions make you feel.
You might like to look at I'm looking after someone with cancer and particularly the emotional effects. On the children side you might like to look at Talking to children and teenagers about cancer because I am fairly certain they know something is going on and will often think it might be something they have done.
Do post on here when you need, someone is always listening.
<<hugs>>
Steve
