My longest and dearest friend was diagosed with terminal lung cancer just over 2 years ago. She has had radiotherapy and chemo and is well at the moment, but still terminal. We reconnected when she was diagosed and have got close in the last couple of months . She has recently moved house and her husband of 6 years left her 3 weeks ago and moved in with another woman, just before she moved house. At times she is inconsolable and I struggle to find the right words. She has 3 children, 16, 19 and 21. Im trying to persuade her to make the most of every day but she says she is ashamed of having cancer and can't deal with what her husband has done. Any advice is very much appreciated.
Sorry to read about your friend, we do see all sort of relationship issues here sometimes partners cannot cope with the diagnosis and sometimes the parient can push their loved ones away as if to protect them. While we could all say you should not be ashamed of having cancer that is easier said than done.
Given the cancer, moving house and her husband's issues it is easy to see how challenging things are for her, if you are simply there for her that is likely to be a big help. I wonder if her children could also help in this to bring herself out.
Remeber too to look after yourself, as a role as carer can be very challenging
<<hugs>>
Steve
