Night nurse just called. She reports my Dad's breathing is changing and I need to come be with him.
I'm scared, and on my own. My fiancé went back to Scotland yesterday (I'm north Wales)
I'm just having a cup of tea to wake myself up, feed the cats and get going.
Think I will take some scented candles up.
Hope you don't mind, but I might be checking in today a lot.
I'm here with Dad. We are listening to Yes. His favourite album is Close to the edge. Going to put some Mike Oldfield on next.
His breathing is shallow, sounds like he is snoring, then he stops, then big intake. He is trying to cough. Guess that's the fluid in lungs. He mostly looks calm and comfortable.
Dad passed at 10.40am 8/5/19 It was just me and my dad in the room. It was so calm and peaceful.
I was very sorry to read of the passing of your dad, my heartfelt condolences to you this morning.
My thoughts are with you.
Ian
So sorry to hear about your dad passing. I’m so glad that you were able to be with him - that will have been a great comfort to him. Even if he wasn’t able to vocalise anything, he may have sensed your presence. Sounds like you have been a rock. I hope that you have someone to talk to now? If not, please feel free to msg me and I will help in any way I can. All the best to you and sending hugs.
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