My sister had breast cancer over a year ago (age 39) after chemo, a mastectomy, a hysterectomy and radiotherapy we were told it was all gone. This week we got her scan results and it’s spread and is now metastatic breast cancer. They are going to try everything and if she responds they’ve given her two years! I know it’s her going through it but I feel absolutely devastated! I live about 6 hours away from her and feel like now is when I should be with her! The guilt i feel is almost unbearable and the thought of losing my big sister is utterly heartbreaking! Is there any support I can get? I want to move to where she is but it’s just not possible. I don’t want to regret the time we have!! I’m so emotional today, any help appreciated
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So sorry to hear your news, perhaps reach out to get whatever support you can. Maybe your gp can put you in touch with helpful people, of course macmillan are brilliant. Things are very raw at the moment, you desperately want to be there and help. It takes time to make the right decisions and of course you have to look after yourself and try to see the guilt although natural is not helpful. In essence, I am replying, I suppose just to let you know that I hear you and you are not alone. I don't know if anything I say is helpful or constructive, even the right thing, but as I say, just want you to know that this is a good place to say what you need to say. Xx
Thank you ever so much! I think it’s just hit me today!! Last week I had my children to keep my mind busy but they’re back at school and childminders today and my husband works away in the Middle East and not back for another 4 weeks!! I’m going to feel up and down I guess! I think I will plan a trip up north to visit as something to look forward to!!! I really do appreciate you messaging me, it’s such a tricky subject to talk about, my sister is positive so we have to be as well! It’s just the shock and reality of it all! I see my gp next week so will talk to him!
Thanks again xxx
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