Hi there
I’m just on here to try to release some of my emotions that are building up over my mum’s lung cancer ‘journey’
I’m finding it extremely difficult to deal with her worsening symptoms without showing to her and my dad how upset I am.
My mother is in her 70’s and has otherwise has always been fit and healthy. My father is also in his 70’s and along with his own health concerns has recently had to go through the illness and death of his mother and then her brother too.
My own marriage was rocked when I found out my husband had hidden debts from me causing us to have to move in with my parents so increasing the ‘pressure’ but he is amazingly supportive.
My brother is living in Australia and we are both told very little by my parents about what is actually going on. I don’t even know what cancer she has! My parents are a little old school and like to keep things to themselves
I am frustrated, frightened, angry, scared, upset, devastated and I know that this is only the tip of the iceberg. My mum’s diagnosis is like living under a black cloud and I am aware that things will never be the same and that I will have to face loosing her soon enough and I just don’t know how to cope or be there for her or my dad xx
Hi and a very warm welcome to the online community
Although I'm not a member of this group I noticed that your post hadn't had any replies and didn't want to pass by without trying to help. By replying to you it will bump the post back to the top of the page where hopefully someone who shares the same experiences as you will see it and feel that they can reply. I'm also going to tag my fellow Community Champion src60 into my reply as he looks after this group.
You sound like you're under a lot of pressure at the moment so no wonder you're worrying about how you're going to cope but you've done the right thing in reaching out to this group for support. You might find that this information about the emotional effects of caring helps you.
The Macmillan Support Line is also available to you so if you feel that talking to someone would help give them a call on 0808 808 0000. It's free to call and available between 8am and 9pm every day of the week.
Sending a ((hug))
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