My dad is 91 and has skin cancer. His tumour bleeds terribly every morning, and he is unable to clean up properly. He smells, is always covered in blood, and eats raw pizza for lunch. He is palliative care only of course, but yet he refuses any extra care beyond district nurse visits 3 times a week to change his dressing.
I am constantly sick with dread and worry and finding it hard to cope. He refuses the help available then leans on me for so much support. I am breaking.
I'm not sure why I am writing this actually. I suppose any advice would be appreciated.
AngApp x
Hi AngApp
I am so sorry to read your post above, there are many different elements within it, dad's diagnosis, the morning bleeds, hygiene elements and food consumption concern. But within all of that, there is concern for you, it feels like you are under an extreme amount of pressure, yet Dad is refusing help from anyone else.. I don't know enough about your dad's other health factors or if he has capacity, but there is a large amount of support that is available to you, and Dad if he agrees.
The Macmillan Support Line is open 7 days a week, 8am-8pm on 0808 808 00 00. Here you will be able to discuss everything that you have mentioned above and receive expert advise which may offer you some guidance with things you were unaware.
Hopefully you will soon also receive some replies from the Macmillan Team now that you have reached out with this post, support is here for you Ang, I hope when you come back to the forum it is here waiting for you.
Sending Strength.
Lowe'
