My wife has CUP - finding it hard to cope with - makes me want to withdraw

Hi Yakmanb6d758 

Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.

I am Steve one of the community champions and my expereince of cancer is via my wife who has Leiomyosarcoma.

It is not unusual to think about how things will be in the future, this is sometimes called anticipatory grief and there was quite a good blog about that here. For myself I ended up doing a living with less stress course that really helped me. 

<<hugs>>

Steve

Hi Yakman, its devastating when you get this kind of news and lurch between wanting to live your best life however long that is, and that sense of loss for the future you wont have, the fear of how they will deteriorate, how long they will have, wanting to do your best to care for them. 

You will have feelings of sadness, do you have anyone else to share those feelings with? My husband didnt want to talk about dying, he was always going to be the outlayer who would live past predictions ( he had a rare sarcoma and was given 12-18 months and got 12). He always used to say we cant change the hand dealt, we can just make the most of it. We tried, it wasnt easy though as he was getting weaker and weaker..

Here is a good place to talk openly if you wish , without judgement or criticism

Hugs to you