My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Hi guys, was here over an hour ago but the doorbell rang and it was George (the painter not the joiner!) and his daughter dropping in for a coffee.  They are SO lovely and even though I have no more painting for him to do his family now text me and pop in to see how I am quite regularly. 

Lynne - way to go you, of course you were 'top woman'' we will have to get you on Top Gear to give the Stig a run for his money!  Well as this is the first weekend I have been home since starting work I am planning to do a heap of housework ........ maybe!  Mum and Dad are coming up for Easter so I want it all to look lovely for them, so the plan is to get up-to-date with the ironing etc this weekend then there will only be a little for mum to do when she gets here!  teehee.  I have been putting a list of odd jobs together for dad to do (most of them I could manage, but he does like to feel he is helping and is USELESS at sitting down or doing nothing ....... I take after my mum who is superbly good at relaxing!).

Lesley you should be so very proud of yourself hun, cooking and making sure that you are eating properly.  Hope that you start to feel a bit brighter soon ..... I am sure the shopping will help!  Helen, we want photos of Nat's dress when the time comes.   Rosemary I think that you are going to busy from here on in til the wedding hun - Sam must be so excited.  Sue, I LOVED the text about the meerkat - apart from worrying you stupid, spending all your money and eating you out of house and home when they visit with their washing - Boys are very good at cheering mums up.  Gayle, give that wee toot Ewen a hug from me - from the mouths of babes eh hun??

Love to everyone else - I will be back later and will have read everyones posts properly so I can remember what they say, just know that I think of you all each day. 

Speak later, loads of love Judi xx

Hello everyone.  It's miserable here as well today.  I have been catching up on some recorded TV.  I am just about to nip out to a garden centre as I have an urge to do some gardening before easter - if the rain stops.  I'm going shopping with my son's girlfriend tomorrow afternoon so that is something to look forward to.  We will come back in time for my dinner with my neighbour.  Lynne you sound like the kitchen problems are getting you down.  I hope they get sorted.  I need to find out about a water meter don't I?  Lesley enjoy your shopping and little Daniel tonight.  Good luck with the prom dress shopping Helen.  I am finally going to sit down and watch Harry Potter & the half blood prince tonight - better late than never eh?  Hi to Sue, Dot, Patricia, Fiona, Rosemary, Dave, Quill, Janice, Teri, Julie, Gayle, Judi, Bren & Manda.  (Hope that is everyone!)  Have the best day you can everyone.  Ailsa xxx

Morning all , Ailsa i dont think you would have got tto the garden centre yesterday if it was you had the same kind of weather that i had , it never stopped all day but the sun is out today so hopefully you get into the garden today . I'm trying not to let all these little problems get me down , but it is hard when you have to rely on other people isn't it . My son came and sorted the electrics out , the kettle had been leaking and was getting into the base where you plug it in oopss , lucky i wasn't blown up really . The water board couldn't fit the water meter as the stop cock was to far hidden , so i've got to get a plunber to move it and bring the pipe work out more , the "lad " that was doing the meter said "most people dont bother once there is a problem " but i said i'd got to get it done as i know it will save me about 200 pond a year , si i've got one of my sons (thank goodness for sons) friends to come and have a look to see how much it will cost to move the pipe works .  Yes you should look into it Ailsa and anybody else who is on there own now . ... Helen , how did the pron dress buying go ?   Bin bag ? we really should see a ptcture of that lol .. Judi can you send George the joiner or painter to me next i will be able to keep him very busy lol , always something to do , the prospect of moving is geting to be more of a reality everyday , i dont know if i can keep up with the maintanance and the up keep on my own of this house , so the caravan might become a reality or if not that a brand new apartment with hardly any maintanace lol .. Lesley well done on the cooking , glad you had a good day shopping (always good)  .. Glad the holiday is booked Manda and so glad you got into the hotel in York ... I ve got all the kids coming for lunch so i'd better get on with it . By my guessing i think Gayle is just getting in now , hopeyou had a good night Gayle

 xx Hope everybody else is having a good weekend xx (((((( HUGS )))))

Take care xx Lynne xx

Morning

I slept until 9am!!! Woo hoo!! Mind you I was up latish and heard son and daughter coming in with friends and chatting all night, all sleeping over too!

No great success with dresses, Nat tried a few on. We bought an umbrella each as it was so wet lol! I went to our local for a few with friends at tea time too. Going in again today to watch the Liverpool/ Man U game. Been a busy weekend but enjoyed it and only 5 more days then off for 2 weeks!!! Busy planning my time off already, will try and leave a couple of days to chill x

We ve got another meeting for Paul s fundraising tomorrow night, the tickets are selling and the raffle prizes coming in are amazing. I have also made that appointment with the consultants for 9th April. See what its all about xx

Better day here today too so hopefully everyone can do what they wanted to, I m looking forward to doing some gardening but got to be in the pub for 1pm!! lol Otherwise I might have done a bit today, will wait until hols

Have a good Sunday everyone

Helen xx

helen - the garden will still be there next week .

Get down the pub!

having a lovely weekend with sister and partner - ate far too much last night but don't care - washed down nicely with a few glasses of rose. Off to visit nephew at uni now then out to lunch; i know how to have a good time.   Sometimes.

Love to all

sue xx

Morning Sue, thats it you ve persuaded me lol!!!

Glad to hear you re having a lovely weekend and nearly Easter hols for you too

Bug higs

Helen xxx

Morning everyone,

Lynne I wasn't too bad - in bed for 3am lol.  Still tired though as its been a very busy week.  Had a lovely night out last night but feel a bit deflated today.  Having quite a lazy day doing ironing and pottering about the house ready for work tomorrow.  Weather is nice here too but a bit colder today.

Anyway, hope you all have a nice Sunday.

Gayle x

Afternoon all - are you're all out enjoying the sunshine??  Hope you remembered the sunscreen??? 

Love and (((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))) for you all

Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi guys

Was a bit sacred to post yesterday because while you were all suffereing the rain we had the most beautiful day here, so spring like.  Was out to the bistro down the road last night with the mums of Boy's friends so the evening was spent telling each other how wonderful our children are!!!  The more wine, the more wonderful ... teehee.

Today I was out for lunch - my haven't most of us eaten well this weekend - and a fashion show.  I was taken by a lady I used to work with before Boy was even born - in fact Rosemary she is the lady that hires out the hats!  Thank God I hadn't gone in my jeans .... no one told me it would be full of 300 of Aberdeen's "Great and Good" as I like to call them!  You should have seen some of the outfits - no not at the fashion show, on the people watching!  There was no catwalk, they were just wandering around the tables as we ate.  One very nice lady at our table stopped one of the girls to ask where the outfit was from and how much it was etc.  Nobody at the table quite understood why I was choking in my napkin ...... eventually I was able to explain it was because she wasn't a model, it was just someone on the way to the toilet!!  Anyway, so supper cos I am still so full so just a quiet chilling evening. 

Helen, I as so glad tha tyou have made an appointment to speak to the consultants.  Good luck with the meeting tomorrow.  Lynne, do you want to start your Winnebego travelling at the top and pick me up first, or are you starting at Cornwall and getting to me later???

Off to watch the skate off - speak later.

Loads of love to all.  Judi xx

Woops ..... wasn't SACRED at all to post - was SCARED!!!  J x