My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

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My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa

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    Dave

    sue xx

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    Evening All,   Dot i hope you are not to sore and soon recovery from your fall, Well it's been a lovely day here today again but a bit cold tonight. Had a friend down for a wee while tonight, work was busy today think the nice weather makes a differance. Dave hope you have a nice birthday tomorrow. Feeling a bit tired tonight so not be long till i am in bed and hopefully i can sleep. Hope everyone is ok? Fiona xxxxxxx 

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    Aww Dot - sending some hugs to you and hope your not too sore tomorrow once the bruising kicks in xx

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    Morning all , just a quick one to say Hi . Dottee you poor thing , i think this seems to be the tread for accidents at the moment so everyone TAKE CARE !!! . The sun has been out for a couple of days now and its amazing how it can lift your mood . Gayle your boys are little sweethearts xx Has any one heard from Lesley ? hope your ok hun , i'll be texting you later , i know your useless with your phone but it wont stop me texting lol . Judi and Helen REALLY , once again i'll say Who took the wine ? (i'll admit i just forgot mine lol ) Fiona , glad you had a good birthday and Happy birthday to Dave for today, anything planned Dave ? . Sorry i've not mentioned everyone but i think about you all , all the time . Have a good day everyone

    . Take care Lynne xxx

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    Morning all - hope it's a good day for you all today..........

    Lynne - I'm just a walking disaster area and am lucky to if I stay on my feet for 2 minutes together!!  If there's a matchstick to fall over my feet will find it!!!!!!  Nothing is broken - though I've just found out that sneezing is painful...........and these things always get worse before they get better!!!!!!

    Fiona - so sorry I missed wishing you 'Happy Birthday' for Monday....it was my Son Number 2's birthday same day.  But he's gone off to celebrate in Portugal with Girlfriend!!!!!

    Dave - 'Happy Birthday' to you.....hope you have a lovely day and the sun shines for you..............

    Love and lop-sided (((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))) for you all

    Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx


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    Have the best birthday you can Dave x x x it will be hard withiout your darling Nic but Inhope you manage to enjoy it at least a little.

    Dottee, I do hope that you start to feel a little less sore soon.

    Everyone else, I hope you have the best day you can.

    Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

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    Wow, so many posts to catch up on.  Looks like you had a wonderful time ladies, I am glad for you.

    Fiona, Happy belated Birthday to you and Dave Happy Birthday today.  Hope you manage to enjoy it with your boys.

    Rosemary, we travelled to Albany and back on propeller planes, I am still deaf!  It would have been quicker driving but with Canadian winters, we didn't know what the weather would be.  It was a lot of fun, great to get away.  John Edward was fantastic, we had front row seats so saw him very clearly.  He didn't speak to us but several of the others who were read, had similar experiences and I did get quite a lot from listening to him.   He is heading your way in spring and summer, certainly worth going to see. 

    We also did a lot of shopping - love shopping in the states, my friend brought back 8 pairs of slacks! I am glad I went, good to be home and now I must keep busy for the rest of the week of my spring break.  I don't do well home all alone.

    Dot, hope you are getting better.  Take care of yourself too now.  Julie sorry to see you on here but welcome and everyone else, hello.

    Bren

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    Hi Bren,

    Glad to hear you had a great trip and enjoyed John Edward.  I just checked and he is in Manchester in May - very tempted to book tickets!  Anyone else fancy it?

    Gayle xx

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    Hi Bren - welcome back  - so pleased you and your friend had a good time over the border.  Shopping??  Hope you got lots of bargains???  Take care and make sure you put your feet up for at least part of your break.........

    Love and a big (((((hug))))))

    Dot xxxxxxxxxxx

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    Afternoon Gayle - our posts must have crossed.........I don't think John Edward is my cup of tea So will have to say no.........

    Love and (((hugs)))))  Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxx