Hi this is my first post. I’m sitting beside my wife of 43 years she has melanoma which spread to her brain I don’t think that she will last the next 48 hours. I am so scared about living without her,we did everything together. I have read a lot of posts here and everyone is so heartbreaking my hart goes out to all of you . But how do you cope with coming back to an empty house,driving the car with nobody besides you and many many more things. I feel guilty writing this as I sit here with my Winnie but can’t bear the thought of losing her Sorry I am rambling now. Virtual hugs to all of you.
Hi Winmick,
Try not to worry about the future 're empty house/car drive home for now. We are here now and in the future. You are not alone.
I understand the fear but for now try to be in the present. I appreciate it is not a nice place to be. Your wife is still with you, hold her hand, tell her how much you love her and talk to her.
I found it comforting to chat about the good times, cry, play music and what felt like was rambling at the time; my way of letting my husband know I was with him until the end.
No need to apologise. Sending you a big virtual hug back too...
With lots of love,
Dutsie x
My darling wife passed away at 6 this morning.
So sorry for the sad news.
So sorry to hear your sad news,This is a group none of us want to be in. I’m ten months in now,it is so hard,I hope you have plenty of support.,Val x
Thank you all very much for your support. My hart goes out to all of you. I am just going round in a daze cleaning the house and keeping busy. I just can’t imagine what lies ahead. Mike.
So sorry to hear your sad news
I have found this site gives me comfort that neither friends nor relatives can give
so keep in touch
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