I know some people here have been prescribed antidepressants, has anyone taken mirtazapine? I put in a prescription request for sleeping pills and had a phone call from a GP I've never seen who asked why I wanted them. I explained that my mind races when I go to bed, she asked why. Obviously hadn't read my notes as I had to tell her my husband died less than six months ago. She then implied that my 'mood' should be improved by now and prescribed mirtazapine. I read all the side effects and I'm not sure I want to take them, they are quite new and seem to be for severe depression. How does grief differ from depression? I get up, eat, function, walk the dog, I'm just very very unhappy and lonely while doing it.
Has anyone else taken mirtazapine? Are there other alternatives? I'm worried I'll end up feeling worse rather than better. What would you advise please?
Hi spirit, I haven't taken ADs, I dare not go to the gp because that's what I think they will do and they have never done me any good in the past.
My worries would be the same, that they don't help me long term but just push the can down the road
Your doctor clearly doesn't understand grief. If you are able to listen to things, try Linda Falasco on Why grief gets harder after the first few months. Its about 15 mins and really helped me see I'm not going mad! I don't know if links are allowed. I find myself telling people that things can get worse as the real process of healing starts.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=0xkNyZKSJjU
Lots of love. I wish we could all work out a way to connect with each other as we all live scattered.
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