Weekends

Yes I find weekends hard too. I dont have family nearby either and I dont drive so im limited where I can get to.

Im trying in the garden, but my mobility is poor so I tire very easily. 

I feel there are no weekends now. Just like when we had covid the days for me seem to morph into one. We would always be doing something at the weekend knowing that that was the time we would be at the caravan or out somewhere. My son came over yesterday with my little granddaughters he wanted to borrow something from me though his dad's cordless drills plus my daughter in law he said threw them all out because she wanted to clean the house. `Borrow` means though I probably won't see them again but I don't mind I'm not great at DIY anyway. He did fix the fence in my back garden for me though so can't complain. My youngest little granddaughter doesn't really know who I am and my other one was a little bit elusive with me constantly asking her dad `when they were going home`. But a wee bit of `bribery` with a couple of pound coins worked. My son is always saying to me go over to theirs anytime and that I have a car sitting there but it needs to be `when they can fit you in` he says if I phone they can plan to be home when I want to go over but that sometimes never always works and at times I now feel as though I am intruding with their lives. Yes your so right Spirit with people just going back to their wonderful little lives and just leave you to get on with it. I always feel now as I said that I am intruding with other people going into company anywhere- even my own family so I just wonder sometimes if its best just to be on my own. Yes hard to stay positive a lot of the time. 

PattyK

I feel exactly like you - it was 16 months on Sunday for me.  I feel like some of the people who have supported me are drifting away - even comments made that I should be moving on.  

Even though people start off with good intentions they do drift off and get back to carrying on with their own lives.  I’d like to think roles reversed I would be more supportive.

There were 100+ people at my husband’s funeral all promising to stay in touch - God knows where they are and because they haven’t made contact - I feel unable to contact them because it was obviously just lip service.

I am currently supporting my 87 year old dad as my mum passed away in February - I don’t want him to feel how I do.

I haven't posted for a few months, but your thoughts resonated with me regarding the weekends. I lost my Partner 9 months ago  tomorrow 10th. The time has just flown, I am just finalising everything now and find that I have more time. Reading other posts, in the beginning family and friends are there supporting, but for me the last six weeks I felt much more alone. My family and friends are living their lives as they should and enjoying themselves but I am not. It is hard for me to be around happy people and I don't want to bring their mood down so would rather just be at home. I work every other Saturday and where I used to really hate working on a Saturday, I now want too since my Partner passed away. In fact any extra hours I am just working, there is just a huge void now. It is hard for people to understand who have not lost a Partner/Husband,. There seems to be an expectation to move on and get on with life, but it's not like that for me.

I did wonder if there are any Macmillan area support groups that people from the forums could attend or a central meeting point? The forum is brilliant, I read the posts and realise I am not alone in my thoughts. Just would be nice to have a face to face option as well. 

Hi roly523c53

I have started to explore the possibility of a fruendship group, possibly a zoom meeting and you never know where that may lead. I started a thread called how about this. So just let me know if this is of interest. I cant promise anuthing but its worth trying.