Back home safe and sound!

You have my sympathies. I was in a similar situation with my son but he told me off loudly in front of everybody because apparently I should have been organised and gone to the toilet before we got there. I hasten to add i had but unfortunately being on diuretic tablets I don't have a lot of control over it when the tablets working.! Boys eh....I don't know how old yours is but mine was late 20's at the time but then he does have aspergers syndrome( high functioning autism)! Anyway I'm glad to hear the surgery went ok and hopefully the results won't be too long in coming through and be good news. Glad you are home safe and sound. God bless. Lamb.

My elde son has ahdh (attention deficit disorder) he has a heart of gold but always been hard work. Impulsive forgetful clumsy untidy loses  EVERYTHING always late once a whole day but as he's brother says means well! How he navigates through life I'll never know and he's a manager!! Do you have a daughter!

Yes I do..she is the eldest and they are very close. I think he relies on her to get him out of all the scrapes he gets himself into and sounds her out for advice when my husband and I are the "bad guys" or in his words are too ancient and computer illiterate to have any idea what he is talking about! He has a heart of gold though but does everything your son does and more. As much as I love him I think if he had arrived first in all honesty he would have probably been an only child because he is so much hard work and has quite a few problems. He prefers to work on his own because other people frustrate him and a 9 to 5 office environment just isn't him because I think the telephone would be ripped off out of the wall at the first opportunity! He manages though as you say I don't know how on occasions. We have to help him clean otherwise the place would be a pig sty, make sure he isn't sitting on any bills or correspondence because it never gets opened and pjles up, and do washing as he has an aversion to strange washing machines and doesn't like it if other people's clothes have been in there unless it's family. He can't handle relationships with girls so he's traded them in for a little stray cat he adopted,or the cat adopted him in not sure which but having had that to love and look after for a year he is much calmer and can cope better..probably because it doesn't say anything! Still he's happy and will always help us out if he can. My daughter has just had a baby who is 6 months and he adores her but he has already told us that we won't be getting any children from him! Xx

Great to hear the pesky enemy node surrendered without a struggle  papermoon, fingers crossed now for your histology results. Did they give you a time frame for results as I realise they seem to vary. Anyways sending you a gentle hug and hopefully everything will work out OK I hope your being well looked after and get plenty of rest to help recovery.

Hi Kate,

I'm so glad that your op welt well the enemy surrendered without a fight. It sounds, though, as if your son could use his hand held device for reminders … like his mum's name! Honestly, I think it's pretty funny, too. It's just lovely, though, that he's such a great nurse waiting on you hand and foot and, hey, now he knows your name!

Just get stronger and stronger every day.

Jan xx

Hi papermoon It's good to hear that your op went well and that you are recovering at home. I hope you don't have to wait too long for the histology results and that when they're in, all will be well. Get lots of rest and take care. Gentle hugs x

Thanks Jan honestly he's got worse lately don't know whether it's because he has a demandng job and never seems to switch off from work. Anyway he got me home from hospital albeit a very uncomfortable experience. He seemed to find the most decrepit wheelchair in the hospital circa prewar by the look of it and seemed to manage jolting me at ever traffic light that was always red and find all the potholes. He had packed my bag but left my dressing gown behind saying he didn't realise I'd taken one. He went Wednesday when my other son from Kenya arrived like a gift from heaven. Still sore and tired but it's early days. I'll write soon promise haven't forgotten you.

kate x

Oh, I'm just so glad things went well, Kate. That surely doesn't sound like a limo ride home! :) It sounds as if, between the antique wheelchair and the bouncing over the potholes, you were mighty happy when that trip was over. I do hope you managed to retrieve your dressing gown lest it be nicked! Now you can relax at home with your other son from Kenya on duty. Oh, it's early days and it's going to take time to heal and let your body catch up on real rest. Pamper yourself and don't overdue. I tend to push myself to the limit and beyond ending up really paying for it. Just enjoy some rest and visiting with your son.

Jan xx