Hi, I'm Carole, 63 years old. In 2018 I had my right kidney removed. There were no metasticised cells. We hoped that was it done. In June this 2020, a small leision was picked up on a routine follow up scan. Gutted! There were 2 suspicious lymph nodes near aorta. It was operable but difficult. Then my treatment went on hold - covid hit the hospital. Lots of phone calls... Surgery went on hold as they didn't want me to catch it from there! Another scan in Jan 2021 and nodules found in lung, abdomen. No longer operable. So I opted for immunotherapy. This began 6/03/22. I'm now in hospital with complications from this.
I have several co-morbidities. Weight issues, BP, diabetic insulin dependency, thyroid under active.. The oncologist came yesterday and asked me if I would sign a Do not resuscitate form. He assures me it won't affect decisions to treat if things go badly and it is just to have my wishes known and save my suffering further down the line. At a given point, the final decision will become the doctors but I believe if it can be improved short-term then don't give in!!! My husband is adamant that I don't sign it. My sisters are the same. As this is the oncologists 3rd time of asking, I'm now wondering if I should just sign it and get it out of the shadows. I don't want to sign it but he seems to be positive it is the right choice. I'm struggling with this. Am I being selfish wanting to live as long as possible even if it would be a poor quality of life?
, Any thought would be appreciated
Thanks
