Nervous and anxious

Hi , 

just a quick post to say that you’ll be fine, the team will take great care of you (I’m just off to bed), take it easy post op as the anaesthetic stays in your system for anything up to three weeks, but do do the given exercises. Be kind to yourself! 
keep posting as there’s a huge amount of knowledge in this group. Keep busy and occupied beforehand as it will keep your mind away from the ‘what ifs’ and please, above all, do NOT google! It’s full of scare stories and out of date! 

Sending you hugs xxx

ps in 10 days time you will NOT have cancer!!!! xxx

Hi 

You sound like you have got the right attitude to get through this. My advice is to stay positive as it has definitely helped me get through my mastectomy and recovery. I don't think of it has losing a breast, I see it has kicking cancer into touch. 

I had my op 7/4 and have just had my prosthesis fitted today and am surprisingly happy with how it has all gone. Though it would be much worse. Didn't really have pain after operation  just felt like  mild sunburn.  Stayed in overnight. Had drain out in morning and was home by lunchtime. 

Very important to do exercises they give you, helped with my seroma  soon went down.

Back to work tomorrow. Wishing you all the best for your operation.  You will be in good hands. 

. It's ok to be scared and it's ok for your children to see you scared .  It's a chance for you all to talk about your fears and they will learn from you that fear is ok and after the operation when you are recovering and well again that it was ok !  You got better !!

i did sigh at you saying you are trying to cheer up others about your diagnosis!  It's so blooming odd isn't why we feel the need to fo this !  Yes with your young children but adult family &. friends no.  You will probably move into the next phase of them dismissing your cancer diagnosis as a blip or just not letting them it talk about it with a short 'you'll be fine'!!!  Yes you will be fine but being told you have cancer is a big deal and you need time to process and even grieve for your pre cancer life.  Post cancer life will be good but don't be shy of telling people you are struggling at the moment as it's hard staying upbeat for your children when inside you are paddling like mad.  

On a practical note have you got all the bits you need for hospital and help for when you are discharged!  Focusing on practicalities gives you control and that brings a sort of calmness xxx

Thank you for your reply, I have sorted everything I need for the hospital and have my husband at home for help afterwards. I think concentrating on the practical things is what I have done all along it’s what I have done all my life I think when ever something bad happens I concentrate on the good things that can happen from it I have never been the type of person who sits and cry’s about a situation cos in my head what is that going to do it’s not going to help me the only thing that helps are actions . I have been completely honest with the kids well as much as I can with the younger two (9,5) and they ask questions and I will answer them . The only time I get upset is when I think it will impact on them I had a wobble to my husband last night this may sound strange but I felt so bad at the thought of my kids going back to school in September and the teachers asking them what did you do in the holidays and they have been stuck in the house with me for the majority of the time, silly I know but that’s really the only time I get sad xx

Thank you for your reply I hope work goes well today x

Thank you for your positive message I had never thought of it like that in  10 days I will not have cancer thank you x 

Hi Adele81,

Wishing you well I went through the same as you last year. To me as I had never been in hospital before was the fear I would never wake up from the operation. I did and I'm living and loving everyday of my life with my family. The fear prior to the operation is immense but you know what once it was done and dusted I could not believe It was over so much so two days after my operation it was a beautiful day my husband was looking after me I had two drains and I got my husband to take me to our local pub for a drink Just for some kind  of normality and it was wonderful. Little steps after operation and go with what your body is telling you.

You will be fine !

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