Could this be another cancer?

FormerMember
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Having had a mastectomy in September 2013, and being signed off last year I have taken to not really bothering about self-exam.  Then last week for some reason I did and found a lumpy area in the other side...it feels a little bit as if it is a cyst but with other lumpy bits around.  I thought I could do this quietly without telling anyone by opting for a self-referral screening, but after I had made the appointment in the end I decided I ought to have more than just a mammogram.  The only way that could happen was to ask my GP and I didn't want to bother her.  But she was great and put through a rapid referral so I have a full 'one-stop' appointment next Wednesday.

Now I don't know who to tell because if it is nothing then it's a fuss about nothing and my adult children are probably as bored with all this as I am.  But I woke up crying this morning and feel very low and went to see a film this afternoon to take my mind off it all.  I know I ought to tell them, whether or not it is anything.

I know that on the forum no-one is going to dismiss it with 'I'm sure it will all be fine' which the first time round used to really annoy me!!  No-one knows if it will all be fine until I go.  I am frightened, angry and sad. Anyone out there? xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hello

    I'm here. I'm on the second bite of the cherry. My first time was 13 years ago.

    Last time I told my children and I found them a great support. This time as soon as I got my call back from a routine mammogram I called them. They are even more supportive than last time. I find it a great comfort to know I can talk to them and my lovely daughter in law if I'm feeling down or need help. I am sure your family will be the same.

    Nobody should go through this alone, it's too hard. You know that the waiting is the hardest bit and its much easier if your family can keep you going. It's always better to have someone with you for these first appointment too.who better than your family.

    So deep breath, keep going and let them know what's happening.

    Hugs

    P.S. there will be another friend along soon.

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Hi Silverberg

    Thank you so much for your reply.  I do think I will tell them because they would be upset if not and it will be a help...

    Yes, keeping breathing is a good idea

    Hope you are bearing up...

    xx 

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Hello  

    I really think you need to share it with someone, i have a friend who has also had breast cancer who i tend to off load to if i have any worries. I get why you wouldn't want to share with your grown up kids, my kids are grown up too and i hate to think of what they have had to go through but they were the ones who got me through and i know if it ever happened again they would do the same again. I felt for a while we had switched roles. Our kids amaze us when we need them the most, and i'm sure they will amaze you again.

    We're here to listen, and hold your hand. We will also have our fingers crossed really tight that its nothing serious. But we will still be here what ever the outcome.

    Big hugs for you xxxx

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Thanx for this last night ...I grabbed the bull by the horns and told them and a couple of other friends and I am so glad I did as now I feel less angry.  I still feel very odd in my head...kind of detached but sad and I don't even know if there is anything wrong...perhaps as everyone says to remind me that this waiting is the worst bit.

    I look back to my posts from 2013 and that is very interesting and comforting as well.

    Hugs for thanx

    xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    I am so glad you did tell your family. Secrets like this are never good.

    Fingers crossed. Make sure you keep in touch.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Well a few more days have gone by and miracles have happened with all the people I have told about my appointment.  Family keeping in touch and saw them over the weekend.  I am so glad I told them now as I don't feel so irritated and odd.  One more day to get through until my appointment on Wednesday and a good friend who has had breast cancer before like me is coming with me.

    I just keep taking deep breaths and focussing on the present [when I can!]

    Thanks for reading this

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

          Onto the final night and after making myself very busy for the last 4 days...now it is beginning to dawn on me what tomorrow will          bring.  I am trying to watch Bake -Off but keep getting distracted by thoughts of tomorrow.  My letter says it could be 1 hour or 5 hours!      Last time I was diagnosed with GP and consultant saying there was nothing there...but had a mammogram anyway...and found the cancer in the opposite breast. Then it all kicked in.  This time I only have one left so it either is or it isn't.  I was thinking a lot how hard it must be to live a long way from hospitals.  I was diagnosed in London last time and this time I am further North but still in a city with access to innumerable hospitals...so I am grateful for that.

    Onwards and onwards...any advice?

    Jenni