My stepdad has just been told he's got cancer, and it's terminal. It's hit us all hard, he must have been unwell for a while but not got checked out until this last month. He lives in Australia with my mum, and I'm in the UK. He's got skin cancer all over his face, it's also in his lungs, and in his brain. He got diagnosed on Friday, and by Monday had been rushed to hospital and has had a bleed on the brain. It also sounds like he has lymphoedema in his legs. My mum has no family in Australia, it's just the two of them. She wants to bring him home and nurse him herself, with support from home help/nursing care? I'm jist worried that it's going to be too much for her. The doctor has said it could be days, or a few weeks, but it doesn't sound like he has long. For reasons I won't go into, I can't get out there to help. I just feel helpless, and don't know how to support her. I'm worried about what she'll do when he does pass. I don't think she'll cope, having to do everything herself. She doesn't drive so is having trouble getting about. I've arranged for friends in Aus to go round and spend time with her, helping her, bringing groceries, walking the dog etc. I can't sleep, I'm just constantly worried, and confused as to why his illness wasn't picked up sooner? My emotions are all over the place. What else can I do to help them, until I am able to get over there?
