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Sudden loss of My Sister

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My sister rang me on 25th October in tears to tell me she had liver cancer. Telephone result from her gp following a routine scan for what she thought may be gallstones! 8 weeks later she died! Leaving behind her beautiful daughter 23yrs and her son 19yrs. We are all truly devastated and miss her terribly. I lost my dad to a heart attack,  when I was 20yrs, he was 46yrs. My younger brother to a heart attack when I was 42yrs, he was 40yrs and now my sister I am 57yrs and she was 53yrs and I have found this loss the hardest.  My older brother 59yrs suffers from severe depression and at times has been suicidal. My amazing mum is 82yrs and I feel Such a huge responsibility for me to be 'ok to support her and yet I find I am struggling with my grief. I am blessed with an amazing partner, children and grandchildren and wonderful supportive friends but feel I need to reach out to someone who can fully understand what I am feeling and my friend suggested this wonderful website. Feeling anxious! 

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Hi and welcome to the community and thanks to your friend for pointing you in our direction and so glad that you've reached out to us with so much happened in your life and I can understand your need to want to speak with others.

I am wondering if you live near a Maggies Centre (click on green text to open up new page) if you do you might it beneficial to have a chat with them.

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