Are we nearly there....

What you descibe is quite common I believe I have heard of other people experiancing this.Very hard for you but probably its as you guessed its part of a process that is now began .My thoughts are with you kerp posting we will try and support you through this you are not alone lots of hugs xxx

Thank you Granny Sue for your reply. It's comforting to know that others go through this too. It's so sad to see him like this.  I've put music on to try and distract him, I'm not sure if it's helping or not, but I feel helpless. I try to keep the tears at bay when I'm close to him & just let them fall freely out of sight. 

I know its so. heartbreaking isnt it..The music is a good idea before Bill got cancer I worked as a nursing assistant at the local hospital and would always put the radio on for patients in rooms on their own .Music is a wonderful escape for me now as well.when I cant sleep .Look after yourself lots of hugs xx

I am experiencing this with my dad . A week ago we thought he was within days of the end as he was very sleepy, had no appetite, and emotionally he had seemed to give up. He now seems to have this renewed energy but is very confused, disorientated, hostile, and emotional. Last night I had to make him a coffee at 2am, because he demanded it and then started to try to make one himself by trying to operate the oven. He then started tossing things off the counter tops and talked at length about data mining and a computer programme being put into his body. As he's still mobile (with a walker), this is a scary time. 

In my dad's case his confusion is from extensive secondary brain cancer, though I understand this can happen due to infection, pain medication, and other things. That's good that the nurse has been to see your husband and is monitoring his physical health. It's extremely challenging and I second the nurse's advice to just go along with it if the person gets agitated. It's very difficult though and, at least in my case, I feel it's an indication of nearing the end.

Thank you for replying.  Your poor dad seems to be very disorientated - I hope you have some help with him, it can be so very frustrating and hard on you as a carer.

My husband now has some medication to help with the hallucinations and nausea.  He's not eating anything to speak of, I give him whatever he fancies - but he may have a mouthful or so but then that's it.

Somedays I wonder how long he can go on with little to no sustenance.  He's been in pain quite a bit over the past couple of days too, he's got a morphine patch and has oral morphine for breakthrough pain which sorts it out. 

It's his birthday tomorrow.  x