Hello,
I'm looking for support with a very hard and heart breaking situation I find myself in. My partner was diagnosed with a rare and currently incurable cancer two years ago and is on targeted therapy. My world turned upside again after finding out an emotional affair had been taking place too. It's caused huge ruptures and a complete conflict of emotions. I feel at a loss as to how to navigate all these feelings. We are trying couples therapy but it's very hard and I'm not sure we are getting anywhere with both of us holding legitimate pain. We have two young children in the mix too.
If anyone has experience of this I'd love to hear from you (although I wouldn't wish this on anyone!)
Hi Louise777
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
Sorry nobody answered earlier, while I cannot share from a personal experience I have certainly seen a number of cases on here similar and of course have friends who have been in both camps. Sometimes even seen the cancer patient try to push their partner away with "you dont want me to drag you down".
Something perhaps more common is that we had a young son when my wife was first diagnosed (he is nearly 22 now!). We were both certain that we did not want to keep things from him and something that can be quite useful on that front was Talking to children and teenagers. We were also lucky to get lots of support through his schools.
<<hugs>>
Steve
