Partner's mood

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Hello. I'm not techie and I'm struggling to use this site.

My wife has breast cancer, secondary is liver cancer. Stage 4. Have I said that right?

I'm really struggling. I can cope with the physical side of things but she keeps getting so nasty, irritable and awful with me.

I totally understand why she is like she is but it's making a vile situation worse.

She won't be reasoned with and she says the arguing is my fault but it really isn't.

Nothing seems to help. Very occasionally she almost admits what she's like.

It's stomach churning and I'm worn out. Surely I can't be the only person in this situation?

Any advice or contact very welcome.

Simon.

  • Hi

    So very sorry to hear about your wife. I totally empathise with your situation. My Mum is terminally ill with oesophageal cancer and - like you - I'm OK dealing with the physical side of things but the emotional side is something else again. Mum's frustrated and I'm the only person here so she takes it out on me at times or she expresses suicidal thoughts which are alarming to say the least.

    If you scroll down, I posted something entitled 'mental health support' and various kind people came back to me with suggestions and advice. The hospice nurse also told the GP to prescribe steroids for Mum - to help increase her energy and appetite. It's early days yet but her mood does seem to have brightened. 

    I've found that letting off steam in this forum has been really helpful - you're talking to people who genuinely understand. Just reach out with any questions - you're not on your own.