End of life

Hi and welcome to the online community and to our very friendly carers group which has been set up to help and support you. We are very sorry to see you here but glad you found your way to join us.

This is a lot for you to have on your shoulders and you certainly should be reaching out for help and out there there is a lot of support available it's just finding where to start.

First of all as your mum is at home her overall care is the responsibility of her GP and he should be organising help you need from nurses including possibly a Macmillan nurse to come and see your mum and attend to her medical needs especially eating and drinking.

You need to have a meaningful talk with your mum's GP and ask all the questions you need to know about your mum's condition and her treatment plan without this life will be very difficult, you should always try and have someone with you at these meetings.

You also need to arrange for two assessments

patient needs assessment

Apply for a carers assessment

These are  carried out by your council's Adult Social Team and can be done at the same time or independently.

Find your council

NHS guide - How to move someone at home

Your rights as a carer 

It might be to your advantage to contact the local hospice to see what help they can be to your mum especially as you have mentioned end of life.

You haven't mentioned if you are on your own or if you have any other relative to help you, in these circumstances you cannot expect to do everything yourself, you need to make sure that you look after yourself especially in the extraordinary times we find ourselves in.

Please come back to me a let me know that you have spoken to all the people above and that wheels have been set in motion for your mum to have the care she needs, deserves.

Look after yourself and take care and keep in touch.

Ian

CC

Hi, so sorry to hear about mum. The same thing is happening to my mum. I have sent you a friend request but not sure how it works? Just in case you need a chat sometime x