My parent is a Covert Narc (alcoholic) who charms everyone but uses me for supply - has done so all my life. Parent is now 'end of life' and determined to drain every ounce of life from me in the process! Controlling behaviours are ludicrous (exactly where the cup should be placed), unkind comments, name calling, ignoring, eye rolling.....I get the lot!!!! Meanwhile, each visitor or carer gets charmed. I am the ONLY child, here full time, barely sleep or leave the house to grant parent's wish to be home. Feeling like I wanna quit.
Sorry to read about what you are going through. It is not that uncommon that people show something of a different face when others are present but then the carer gets to see something of a different picture. I wonder if you have had a carers assesment to help support you.
<<hugs>>
Steve
