I'm so sorry that you are feeling this way, caring for a loved one can be tough, caring and supporting a loved one through a cancer diagnosis and all that this entails is doubly so. But please know that you are not alone, of course I don't know your circumstances, but by joining this forum and continuing to post your concerns is a step in the right direction, there are many kind souls on here who can offer both practical advice and emotional support, so please reach out. You will never be judged, you are not alone. XX
Welcome to the online community and I am really sorry to see you here due to your mum's diagnosis.
says Life as a carer is tough and can be a lonely existence but you need to know you are not really alone you can pop on here 24/7 and there is a very good chance someone else will be about to listen to you, as carers we often feel that our voices go unheard and no cares about us, we are a very friendly group and are extremely supportive towards each other because we know what life is like being a carer.
As part of the Macmillan family you can be assured of a listening ear from our telephone support team, the people who man the telephones are specially selected and trained to advise and support all who call but their special skills lie in their ability to listen to everyone who calls and give them all the time they need to get things off their chests and at the end of the call will start to give you advice and support and possibly transfer you to one of our specialist advisers who can talk you through anything to do with financials, benefits, energy and employment issues all this listening to you can be accessed by making one free phone telephone call on 0808 808 0000 any day between 8 am and 8 PM why not make that call today you have nothing to lose but a lot of help to be had.
As your mum is at home your GP is responsible for her overall health care and you should speak to him about help whether it be from the district nurses, if available Macmillan nurses on help from the local hospice to ensure that your mum gets the care and attention to give her quality of life.
The GP should also contact the occupational therapists who will make a home visit and arrange for any equipment to make life easier for mum.
Help is available and you should ask and get the help and equipment you need.
Speaking to your mum about what is wrong with her depends on her overall condition and whether she will be able understand what you are saying this can be one of the most difficult conversations you'll ever have with your mum and you need to be well prepared before you start not only in what you will be telling mum but also be prepared for any reaction your mum has and to stop if it gets her distressed and wait for another day, this will be the time when you'll both cry and hug each other.
Once we know more about you and your mum we can start to point you in other directions where help might be available.
Keep in touch with us, talk to the Macmillan support line (there is a friendly voice waiting to speak to you from 8 am) speak to you GP.
Hi Guiding Light, stay strong and somehow you will get through this. My wife was diagnosed 12 months ago and every day has been so so tough but you do manage to get through and find new strength. You will do it because you love your Mum so much and she depends on you now.
Take care of yourself, and take extra care of your dear Mum xx
