Waiting

Hello Welcome, though I’m very sorry you find yourself here. This is a safe place to wait. Lots of ladies come here whilst they wait for test results. Some get good news and we celebrate with them. For others the results aren’t so good and  when that’s the case we do our best to support and help and encourage.

Waiting for tests and results is hard and we all understand the different emotions that go on whilst we wait- anger, fear, etc. At some point, many of us have wondered if we are to “blame” in some way for our cancers. The research suggests obesity can be a factor but so can genetics and so can sheer bad luck. Please don’t beat yourself up. The important thing here is that you think there’s a problem and you’ve arranged with your doctor to have some tests..I’d say that’s a positive step forward in starting to look after yourself. Now what can you begin to do to change your eating or lifestyle habits that will help you to take better care of yourself?. When you’ve made your list, pick just one thing that you feel you can tackle and break it down into small, realistic achievable goals. It’s never too late to start and whatever the outcome of your tests, you’ll have started a new and positive approach to living well. 

Distraction is a useful technique for getting through the waiting. I find keeping busy in the run up to all my appointments helps as does doing the things you usually enjoy. Some of us pray, some of us meditate, some knit or read or walk.... bows the time to draw on your coping strategies. You will get through this - keep talking to us and feel free to ask any questions. Please let us know how you get on. Take care x

Hello , like Fairycake has said there is many factors that can cause cancer and indeed other health issues, so don't blame yourself. The waiting is, yes just awful and seems to be taking forever and can cause a lot of anxiety to happen. Lots of ladies come and pass though with a cause not being cancer but your so very welcome to ask questions, we know our own bodies and they can be so complex and confusing so without tests to confirm or rule out no one knows. I don't know what the process is in the US but hopefully you will not be waiting long for tests and results. Keep asking thous questions and don't stop till you have answers don't let others stop you from doing this. As for symptoms it can vary some have been surprised at not having symptoms but some have irregular bleeding, abdominal pain. 

Sending gentle hugs your way

I have both of those symptoms - or rather, I had the bleeding (now is gone) and I have the abdominal pain (but that is new - didn't happen until after I saw the dr.). The dr's notes also indicated my lining was 15 mm - which is really thick.

I just don't think I have any coping strategies anymore at this point. I was actually determined to have a really great year this year after a really horrible one before. I was starting to diet and exercise- I was finally going to lose weight. But I guess things can always get worse.

And assuming I do have to have a hysterectomy, I'm also concerned because of my weight and because I have another medical condition (that was, also, apparently bad luck) which makes my airway a concern.

I am just really tired of bad luck. And I guess I probably wasn't going to have kids at my age, but that's different from not being able to anymore.

Sorry for venting. I just don't know what to do anymore. I can't sleep, I don't want to eat anymore at all, I'm just having a hard time not curling up and hiding.

Hello never apologise for venting here. We’ve all needed to from time to time. I’m so sorry that you have other health issues which are causing you extra stress. There are ladies on here who’ve had similar issues and who have ultimately come through the op very well. I’m also sorry to hear that you may have to face the possibility of never becoming a mum.  It sounds like you’re having a very tough time just now. I know nothing I say an change what you’re going through but please know that we hear you and we care. Gentle hugs x