It never rains................

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Good  morning ladies.  this post is a bit off topic but I felt I had to share it with you who I feel to have come so close to in my cancer 'journey'.  Last night my eldest daughter rang me to say that she had found a breast lump.  She'd been for an ultrasound scan and biopsy of the lump and lymph node.  the radiographer had said that she thought it was cancer because the lump is an irregular shape rather than rounded which a cyst would be.  She has to wait till next Wednesday for results of the biopsies.  You can imagine how I feel, she is 60 miles away and I wish I was nearer to her, although she says so far she has preferred to go to appointments on her own.  We are on holiday in Scotland next week when she gets her results.  Her daughter is 12 and is distraught.  Her partner sounds as though he is being very good and strong for her.   Here we go again  This almost feels worse than last year when I was waiting for my surgery.  My mind is in overdrive wondering how best I can support her and her family if she has to go through the full gamut of surgery/treatments etc.  And I really can't focus on the holiday at all.

  • Hi Hysteria,

    I know exactly what you are going through! My daughter was diagnosed with breast cancer  5 years ago with a 18 month old child and a partner with a new job which he couldn't just drop!!  A week before her operation (lumpectomy), the grand child was whisked into hospital with a nasty tummy bug. So, my daughter stayed in hospital with grand child until they discharged her Sunday night so that Mum could have her operation Monday morning!!! We went up to help and support them for a couple of weeks. (I ended up with shingles from all the stress!!!!)

    After that we went up (100 miles) to look after my daughter and little one while she had chemo. We went up one week when she was bad, had 2 weeks back home, then started again. The radiotherapy didn't affect her much and she coped. Her partner works away some of the time, so we just covered for him and dropped everything else.

    I hated seeing how poorly the chemo made her. However old they are they are still your children!!!! I also think her partner appreciated talking to someone about everything!!!

    XXXXXX

  • Im so sorry to hear this. What an awful shock for you all. Just take this a day at a time, hour by hour if you have t and try not to second guess anything. Sending you both some gentle hugsand Remembering youboth in my prayers x

  • Hi Steph,

    Im so sorry that you have this worry, it sounds like your daughter is coping well though, I was the same with appointments, I went to all of them on my own, the only exception was when I had general anaesthetic twice and needed dropped off and picked up and when I had my diagnosis appointment and my husband must have picked up the vibe that it wasn't good news and insisted on coming. I preferred being on my own as I could keep myself calm without worrying about anyone else.

    The site has information about talking to children and young people, it might be helpful for speaking to your granddaughter about what's happening. The breast group is really active and full of information too. 

    Can you visit on your way to your holiday and on the way back, or before and after? That might help you relax and enjoy yourself a bit knowing you have seen them and will see them again soon after?  Or do you have FaceTime or Skype so that you can call? 

    Ive got everything crossed for good news from the biopsy,

    lots of love

    xxx

  • Hi ,

    What a big worry and shock for you all,plus I am sure its going bring back memories. I find it strange that I coped better with my own diagnosis then my friends and family. So I can only imagine how your feeling at the moment. I send my love and best wishes to your daughter and you. Fingers crossed for her results.

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