I am currently going through treatment and would like to find other people to talk to about there experience and how they deal with it, as I have been struggling.
Morning, sorry you have been struggling, but nothing wrong with struggling now and again it’s only natural, I had a wobble last week, went from usual 3 month CT Scan to PET Scan, covid swab on Sunday to bloods Monday to start second round of chemo with an 8 hour session on Wednesday! So how did I deal with that, good question, well took me a couple of days to get my head around this as it all happened so quickly, but if am honest with you and myself I thought something was changing on the inside (they say the expert on your own body is yourself)
anyway started to feel better when spoke to the wife and kids (there’s five of them!) and came to the conclusion that we reset and go again! I really try to be positive but can’t do it all the time but try, and of course this Covid does not help as you will know, most people will get their time back but we won’t am sorry to say.
anyway feel free to ask away and share your feeling on here as it’s what we are all here for, to get support and support each other as we are all on this journey together and have each other’s backs as much as we can.
Thanks for the reply. My main struggle has been with my emotions, the mood swing feeling angry. Found it very hard to be positive. My wife has been amazing and without her I Don't know how I would be, but it has effected her a lot and she has ended up on anti depression tablets, so in my mind I feel responsible for that.
Hi buddy, by the way my names Dave, sorry but don’t know where you are on your journey, I can share with you that I also had problems early on with my emotions as they where just always on the surface and I would cry at anything! But was offered counselling but to be honest was not I realise now ready to sit and share my emotions with a stranger, but after a while I swallowed my pride and went along, long story short after a few months of sessions I found it to be one of the best things I did.
i can fully understand your anger but my thoughts are that it’s not the best emotion and can just eat you up, easy for me to say as not really done anger as yet, although I did once went off on one and shouted at the cancer to get out of my body! sometimes I forget to ask my wife how she is feeling as it’s so easy to get wrapped in this whole thing! But I do make the effort to ask and understand her feelings, my wife as my family and friends have all been loving and supportive even when I don’t think I need it if you know what I mean? It’s the old cliche that we always hurt the ones we love, I know I have and regretted whatever shit I have come out with, but it’s so hard this journey for both you and your wife, I find that when am feeling a bit low I wander up to my wife and just ask for a cuddle, no need for words sometimes and we both feel better for sharing.
anyway buddy don’t know if my ramblings help in any way, they seem to help me share with someone who’s going through the same.
take it easy, and please come back with anything you want to share.
Hi, Ive just read about your wife i am in the same boat my husband has suffered with depression for years and he has been so well recently but when the consultant told us on Monday that i have Cancer he struggled more than i did so his gp has upped his tablets and sending him for more counselling. He feels guilty at putting me through this when i am trying to keep upbeat about my own diagnoses. Really hope you and your wife and family all get through this and come out the other end stronger the same as what i hope for us. Take care
Hi Dave, my name is Richard by the way. I am looking into finding someone to talk with one on one, I will certainly think about counselling thank you. My wife is having counselling at the moment because of everything she has had to try and deal with this year. Sorry it takes so long to reply as ever since I started my chemo one of the side effects has been with my eyes, my vision has got worse and both off my eyes water all day long on and off every 5/10 minutes and when I look at my phone or ipad they get worse and I can't see properly. I would be more than happy to give my mobile number out if you ever fancy a chat over the phone.
Hi, sorry for the delay in replying back. My wife is having counselling too and I think it does help her so i hope your husband benefits from it. I am going to look into having counselling as well as my emotions are all over the place. Sorry to hear about your diagnosis. If I may suggest as you have only recently found out about your cancer that you try and talk to as many people as possible about it I think it will help you. I bottled it all up for ages and tried to give the impression I was fine, but that was a mistake on my part. So if you ever want to talk about it then don't hesitate to message me. I would be more than happy to give you my number if you want to talk over the phone. I hope everything goes well for you in the coming weeks. My name is Richard by the way. Take care x
Really sorry to hear what you're going through, my husband was diagnosed over a year ago and I know that emotionally it can be very, very hard.
You'll find lots of support from the lovely folks on here, and as well as that I wanted to recommend another resource for you - it's opa.org and they can put you in touch with a buddy (a former or current patient), so you can speak to someone one-to-one on what you're feeling and going through. Their website is https://www.opa.org.uk/what-we-offer.html and you can contact them on 0121 704 9860.
It's such a lot to deal with so please don't ever feel you are alone
