Diagnosed with bone and liver cancer 23rd oct, gutted, had breast cancer 2009 chemo mastectomy sailed through it, but it's back. Actually met a Macmillan nurse yesterday in the flesh (after a month of phone calls with different ones)Her name is Thelma, she's great, This is my first post and I just wanted to know if how im feeling emotionally is normal..so im not really upset or angry about the cancer coming back and that its incurable ive had a few tears but that's it it seems my attitude has become "oh well here we go again " is anyone else feeling like this? I feel more gutted for my family than myself. Someone reply who feels the same and then i can know im not a hard faced couldn't give a s**t person
Suzanne46
Hi Suzanne, I was diagnosed with spread to the bones in September, unfortunately in the middle of my treatment for primary. Once I got over the shock and had a treatment plan in place I didn't just feel as bad. I suppose it's the uncertainty now is the worst. There are ladies on these forums doing very well on the medications around today and that gives me hope for the future. I'm worried about my family too, and I think that's a normal reaction to our diagnosis. You don't come across as hard faced at all, and perhaps your strength back then when facing BC first time has returned to help you face it again. Take care
Jools xx
Dear Suzanne
Hi what would you say or do as I thought and got told I was stage 2 for long time then get told stage 4 for long time xxx
Its the clarity and answers to any questions I am having trouble getting. It seems to me you get a stage 4 diagnosis then you sit in a black hole waiting. I have just started to bombard any body involved with questions and see what comes out xx
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