Change of course

Hi  I am sorry that you have found yourself on here and that you have had such a huge shock with the discovery of cancer in the lymph nodes. Your description of how you feel is so accurate and I am sure that many people reading this will identify totally with your emotions. And after getting a cancer diagnosis we all definitely go through a grieving process and find ourselves regularly  going through the DABDA grief emotions. Accepting that this is happening and recognising the point we are at does help. 
There are many of us on this forum with positive nodes and whilst it does throw something else into the mix we must remember that the nodes are very good at doing their job of stopping the cancer cells in their tracks. Chemo is not necessarily recommended if there is only one positive node but if you should need to go down that route remember that it really is a ‘belt and braces’ option. 
You have been blindsided twice and you are quite right to be angry with the platitudes from people who have no comprehension of how you feel. They all mean well and are concerned for you but unless you have been in this position it is impossible to understand. 
I agree that putting your feelings into words does help. My posts on here often ramble but there is always someone who understands and will offer encouragement and advice. So do keep posting if it helps you. 
One step at a time is certainly the way to go. I actually find that very hard but am getting better. I am off for my penultimate round of chemo today and I have finally been able to look at just one day ahead to emotionally get through these last 2 treatments and the last 2 weeks. I will freely admit that I have hated every minute of chemo - even though physically I have got through it very well - but I have finally accepted that it is for the best.

Just concentrate on your surgery and recovery for now and try not to think any further ahead until you need to. Once you know the results you can then begin to look up the next stage whatever that may be. 
Taje care and good luck x

@dorset1505 

Sorry you need more surgery. Is cancer in all the nodes or are they just removing as a precaution.

I had a lumpectomy and sensory node biopsy at the end of December. They needed to clear more margins and remove my lymph nodes.

In fact I had 30 nodes removed and cancer was in 4. Last Friday I went to see the oncologist and the results had been checked and I was told that I don't need chemotherapy.  Just radiotherapy and hormone tablets.

Good luck with your treatment.

Wheels x

Thank you for your reply. It really helps me put things into perspective. Much appreciated. I hadn't actually thought about lymph nodes being protectors against cancer but of course they are. 

I am feeling much more positive, those were my initial thoughts.  I am very lucky to be surrounded by people who genuinely care just don't know how to express it as its all alien to them. That is why this forum is so good because you can make a note of feelings, frustrations and someone will understand and reach out.

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Hiya yes they are removing 30 on Tuesday and depending on findings they will come up with a treatment plan.  My consultant said they will probably do chemo. 

I was lucky in that the margins were clear. 

Good luck to you too x

Good luck on Tuesday, everyone on here can appreciate how you are feeling and the emotions that seem to just keep coming! 

I had a mastectomy and a full lymph node clearance in December as at least one node was affected the results showed that it had only spread to 3 so that was good news. Started on chemo due to size of tumour, so there are lots of factors that are taken into account when treatments are drawn up.  Had second cycle of chemo last week and no where near as bad as I thought it would be.although emotionally I am still up and down.

suppose we all need to remember to just take it a day at a time and reach out when we need support. 

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