Hello - feeling unlucky and scared

Hello and welcome to a community no one wanted to join.  You've had a tough time and a lot on your plate losing your husband & father and your mother being poorly but now you need to look after yourself.  Breast cancer treatmnet has benefited hugely from the widespread fund raising and the prognoisis is excellent for the majority of those diagnosed.   Click on my name and you will see I was diagnosed in 2015 and I'm still here.

I don't think stress helps our body immune system cope so try to find some destressing tactics!!  I know easeir said than done.  I listen to sleep hypnonsis on youtube - Michael Seeley and Jason Stephenson among my favourites as I like the sound of their voices.  

You don't have to be strong, you don't have to make others feel better about your diagnosis you just have to focus on your own well being.  If you need help/support ask.  Members of this forum have all been where you are and felt your pain and they will support you.  There is nothing you can't say here!  You can let our your darkest fears.

So what do you know so far about your BC, have they given you any information yet.  I can assure you that once you have a treatment plan you will feel calmer.

There is a lovely chat thread called Awake which you might like to join.  Been running for over 4 years so go to final post and just click reply to join in.  There is a farily constant stream of new members joining along with many oldies!!  It's more light hearted and just there when you need it. xxx

Big hugs  x

Thank you so much Grogg, it's reassuring to read your message. 

Hi Mamajules

So sorry that you have reason to join us, but a warm welcome to this friendly, supportive place. I can't add anything else to Grogg's lovely message but wanted to give you a little hello. You're going through a very stressful time and I can understand you feeling scared. Life really can throw a really unfair amount of stuff at us at times, can't it.

You don't have to be strong or in control or positive all the time - you'll probably be all those things and more at times, at other times you may want to hide in the shower and cry. It's all OK, - be kind to yourself and you'll get through this one step at a time.

We'll help you through.

R

Thank you x

Thank you Ronstar, you are so right about how up and down you feel.  It's nice to know I can share things on here.  Part of me says 'wake me up when it's all over' and part of me says just face it head on.

Julie

Hi Mamajules.  You don't have to be strong and in control all of the time.  I only have 1 daughter but 6 grandchildren and my 1st thought when I found out about my cancer was how will my granddaughter cope if I die.  She is 12 and for the first 3 years of her life I was more of a mum to her as my daughter was only 16 when she had her.  I have now found out that I have more chance of dying of old age than dying of cancer (I'm 63).  Breast  cancer is very treatable now and you have a lot of information to be gained from test results etc., before your prognosis is decided.  The last 16 months has thrown a lot at you and you coped.  You can do it, you will do it and in a few months' time you will hopefully wonder what the fuss was about. 

Ah thank you Lesley, your message was lovely to read, so pleased your treatment was a success, just hoping mine will be too.

Julie x