Hello - new to the group

Hello Whizz2109. I’m not in a similar situation but I just wanted to say hi and I’m so sorry to hear your diagnosis. When I was told I had breast cancer I felt numb for days. My husband kept asking how I was feeling but I didn’t know. I have been a member of this group for around 3 weeks and people have been so kind and friendly. Sending lots of love to you. You have a mountain to climb but you are on the road to feeling better after a year of being poorly. X x x

Sorry you find yourself here.  There are quite a few long standing members in your position and I’m sure they will pop up eventually with some good advice and reassurance xxx

There is an https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/breast-cancer/f/breast-cancer-forum/128753/awake?Page=1494#1416448 thread that’s very active so say hi there 

Again, I can't help, however, I wanted to Welcome you to the site and group that no one wants to join.  You will find great support and help from ladies on here.... real people that know how you are feeling - believe me you will have loads of varying emotions coming over the following days and weeks.  You are not alone and others will be along to offer you help and support xxx

I don’t have many words of reassurance....but I know it’s hard....any there are many that have been there with you.

All I can say is....deep breath... it will get better...as hard as it may seem now.....the future is there in front of you...

All I can say is....take time...try and breathe...and I am here if you need any support.

Hi @whizz2109,I'm so sorry to hear of your diagnosis and sending you much love. I believe there is another group on the site for secondary breast cancer where you might find other people in a more similar situation to you, but please do stay on this page as well, as everyone is lovely and will be able to offer support and advice about general issues. Try the awake thread there is always someone posting. I hope you are being well supported by your drs and nurses at the hospital,  and you can always ring the Macmillan helpline when open. I wish I could give you a hug xxxxx

Thank you Mariella, I think numb is the right word. I am really struggling with head talk at the moment, I’m a mum of two and am just so scared of what’s to come but it is lovely to be part of a group of lovely people that understand. Xx

Thank you Galligirl, it sounds like you have had a pretty rough journey, i am just starting it. I like you have two teenage daughters and just want to be around to see them grow up so I have to beat this. I just need to dig deep and try to stop the negative thoughts creeping in x

 - it is hard. Even a year and a half after diagnosis I worry more about the kids than anything else. But I have learnt to try and make the most of every moment. I am scared but I realise many, many people don’t get the chance to focus on what’s important....I know what is important and take every opportunity to try and show kindness to others...and love to my family. Take care. Please feel free to message me....I’m not in the same situation as you but...I am here...and am happy to just listen to any rants....

My best advice. (I can’t achieve it all the time but I try) The only thing you can control in this is your reaction to it. I am trying my best to focus only on what is happening right now and deal with that and don’t think about what’s in the future. We don’t know. Worry can not change the outcome. X x x