Feeling lonely

Hi winkers60

Yes I've been feeling lonely too , it's like all my support networks have been taken away , I'm lucky in the fact I have my husband with me  so really feel for you being on your own , my hubby has bladder cancer and I have bowel cancer he's further up in his treatment but I'm through the middle of mine and it's all been stopped , everything I was doing to help recover has been stopped , are you managing to speak to your family and hope you are ok getting food etc , 

Sending you positive vibes and love

Peacock62 xxx 

Hi Jane. Sounds as though you are feeling a bit down which is understandable. I am normally OK with my own company as I am retired and my wife works. I have not long picked her up from work at the hospital. She now takes control of the remote. Usually, I can take a walk down to the bookies, and in the evenings go for a couple of pints. This is what I am missing most. My kids are usually calling me to do various jobs for them, so not even seeing them is hard. I have lots of jobs to do around the house, but now finding it difficult to motivate myself. Usually, I would just get stuck in, so I think this isolation affects us in different ways. On a lighter note, the wife decided to bake a cake yesterday. She used an electric whisk for the first time - and pebble dashed the kitchen. I have spent most of the day scraping cake mix off the walls. best wishes.

Hi Peacock62,It must be so hard that you both have cancer and I’m so sorry you have had your treatment stopped.I can speak on the phone to my mum but she is very deaf so it’s difficult.My sister Sarah has been dropping off groceries once a week.Unfortunately the phone signal where she lives is lousy so that can be tricky too.My partner John is self isolating with his mum as he has a rare muscular disease and other health conditions.We are in touch every day by text at least.I am in touch with an aunt regularly so I get all the family news via her.I’ve never found phoning people easy though I have done so much ringing around these last few months I’m getting better at it.I do hope you can restart your treatment as soon as possible.So many people on the boards are in this predicament,I feel for them all.I’ve got through my surgery but am still some way off full recovery.I’m pleased today because I’ve managed to complete a mountain of ironing that’s been sitting around for ages.Sending best wishes and love.Jane xx

Spoke to our 2 offspring by phone today. Not that we see them very often, but felt really odd not knowing when we might meet again.

Hi rily,I did smile when I read about your wife’s cake making accident.Forty years ago a boyfriend invited a few of us around for a meal.He went to place a hot dish on the pull down door of the grill which promptly collapsed.The food ended up on the carpet.He was so annoyed he picked up a bread roll made by a housemate and threw it across the room.Unfortunately the roll was like a brick and broke a window.We were clearing up for hours.Love Jane xx

Hi Teasswill,I keep wondering when/if I will see mum again.I don’t think she would survive the virus and being in the home there is such a risk that it could be brought in by staff.The staff are very kind and doing the best they can in such difficult circumstances.I shall phone the home tomorrow and hope I can speak to mum as that reassures her a bit.Love Jane xx

Hello Jane

Macmillan offer a befriending service locally, someone to chat to, and I know that the Reading Bladder Cancer Support Group trustees are happy to chat with anyone in any area especially during the C19 crisis - contact numbers are on their website and of course, they understand BC. 

Being social animals mostly, I'm noticing how my neighbours seem keen to stop for a chat when I'm in the garden so being solo must be tough. 

Keeping busy certainly helps; I had half a tonne of compost delivered last evening so that will keep me occupied today despite the stoma and recent surgery.

No worries on the cake baking front and redecorating walls, Mrs CB only visits the kitchen to fetch her stash of choc!

CB

Hi winkers60 my experience is the reverse of others. My daughter and granddaughter moved in with me three weeks ago, and I have swopped my normal much cherished silence and aloneness for family life. Of course I love my girls dearly and I am glad they are safe and can benefit from the acre of wilderness I call my garden. However i am unused to talking so much, and dishing up so many meals, it's tiring! On the upside my daughter is a marvellous baker and her energy is a welcome addition to the gardening. Our duck eggs in the incubator are due to start pipping today, this is a nerve wracking time so when we see the first little beak appear I expect we will all feel euphoric. I got a load of compost delivered too so sending everyone love in this perfect gardening weather. x

Hi CB,The befriending service sounds good.It looks like another nice day here so perhaps I will do some gardening.I envy Mrs CB her chocolate stash,I’ve only got one bar left.Love Jane xx

Hi Herothedog,I find having guests very tiring.Mum and I don’t often have visitors.Good luck with the duck eggs.Our neighbours 3doors down keep chickens.I noticed yesterday that they have cleared the end of their garden and the chickens were roaming around freely.I wish I had the energy to do more in the garden as I love being out there.We are lucky to have a garden.I feel for families without outdoor space during this pandemic.Love Jane xx