Hi Patricia,
Your nights sound like mine i just can't shut off either and can't sleep till late and then in the morning you feel awful, i have a sore head tonight and i am sure it's just tiredness but i know i would not sleep just now but must try and go to bed earlier as working tomorrow and Sat (it's no fun this not sleeping) I have been to my daughters for my dinner tonight i go every Thurs. I do hope your son has a nice birthday or as best he can as they are hurting as well in all this. Don't think my son's birthday will ever be the same to him as his dad went into hospise on his birthday last year. It will be nice for you to see him on Sunday. Do you live on your own or to you have family who still live with you? I am on my own and i find it very hard but nothing i can do about it just have to plod on. Well better go and get a cup of tea and then get off to bed and see if i can sleep.
Take Care
Fiona xx
Fiona-I love the thought that Derek will be in our pocket wherever you go!!i think it is important that we feel that our loved ones are still close to us I have a phot of Dad in nearly every room and I keep talking to him,telling him how much I love and miss him and always will the pain is endless its nearly three weeks,but it feels like yesterday!!
Keep strong knowing that love never fades and he will be in your heart and mind always.
Patricia-get your daughter to sort out any forms or letters you find difficult it will make her feel useful, we daughters like to feel needed!I acn only imagine the pain and loneliness you are feeling,its a terrible expeience to lose your loved one,my Mums is still in shock ....we both feel like hes on a fishing holiday and will be back soon....its almost as if we cant cope with the reality its too bloody painful!!I cant imagine a night when I will sleep again or a day where I wont cry....
Sending love and strength to you both and your families
Debbie x
Hi Patricia,
How are you doing? What weather we are having tonight just like winter, some of Derek's workmate was meant to playing a golf tournament tomorrow in memory of Derek but it's been cancelled so have to be played another day. I know what you mean about a bad dream, i still think Derek will walk through the door but i know that is never going to happen. Well i had a bad night last night and watched tv most of the night i ended up taken a diazapam to see if that would help me sleep. I just don't seem able to shut off and i nver seem to sleep all night now i am waken on and off all night. Well better go and see how i get on tonight as i am shattered. Speak soon.
Take Care
Fiona xxxxxxxxxxxx
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