White is black and black is white. My partner recently.

It could have been me that wrote your post as I have experienced the same with my husband, it seems that I know nothing and have become a child that needs instruction on every task.  This illness has changed him so much.

Like you I bite my lip and seldom argue with him, but there are occasions when you just have to if only for your own sanity.  I think it is pretty normal behaviour of someone with a terminal illness and maybe the only control that they feel they have ...... We love them and care for them but yes, it is hard to deal with.

Hi, in exactly the same boat. Husband diagnosed with stage 4 nsclc in July 19. I can’t do anything right and it’s exactly the same I can’t do anything right and if I feel sad or ill or down about anything he has zero empathy. Everything is compounded by also dealing with our 5 year old who is struggling with trauma and lockdown! 

having to isolate is also difficult with a 5 year old and having no place to go for a break. I am constantly in tears , barely managing working from home whilst trying to deal with his negative behaviour towards me and look after our child.

have no answers but just wanted to show support x

Oh bless you. There are no answers are there ? It is good however to be able to connect with others in a similar position.

For me I feel it's just a case of ............. what will today be like, good or bad ?

Take care x

I believe you're right when you say they may feel it's the only control they have.  Sometimes I wish I could record every conversation we have as I wonder on occasions if it's me who's wrong (pretty sure it isn't)...... 

Take care x

Yes I think I am now just trying to agree to save an argument but it’s so hard to do that .. I feel like I no longer have a voice and i get so frustrated. Also don’t want to be arguing all the time . When my husband was waiting for his full diagnosis he was so nice towards me and since he found out it’s basically just been awful. I think some people go down the route of being positive and some go down the angry route . I think it’s anger where the controlling and argumentative side is coming from. However doesn’t make it any easier to deal with. 

I can relate to what you are saying my husbands moods seem to be up and down all the time and at times it can be really difficult not to argue .Think it’s harder just now as we are all at home as he is shielding and my work think it’s safer I work from home .Sometimes I crave for the normality of work .Its hard not to be able to see your support network family for cuddle .Hope things improve for you take care xx

Yes we are shielding too and it’s definitely making it worse. With a struggling 5 year old it’s getting so difficult !