Isolate or not during Covid019?

FormerMember
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Hi, 

I am asking this for a friend who's world has just been turned upside down. Her boyfriend has just been diagnosed with stage 4. He has a brain tumour and they are stating radio therapy soon. 

They live separately and she is taking on the role of carer bringing him food and taking him to the hospital. She in a dilemma over how she should isolate over Covid-19. She lives in her own house with her kids, who spend 50% of their time with her ex-husband. 

Whilst her ex is being careful in lockdown, the chain of people being connected increases the risk of her boyfriend getting Covid-19.

For the moment should she live with her boyfriend and isolate from everyone else as he is vulnerable? Should he demand the kids stay with her only? We have offered to help take the children but that opens up yet more people to infection.

I would really appreciate any thoughts and advice.

Many thanks,

Roland

  • Hi and welcome to Carers. There is no easy way where cancer is concerned. The decision has to be hers and her boyfriend's, taking into consideration her children's dad's feelings. You say she is 'in a dilemma over how she should isolate', but clearly she is not isolating, it's not possible when visiting hospital. I would certainly avoid any suggestion of 'demand', which could only serve to heighten any distress that might already be felt. I'm sure between them they will find a caring, considerate solution if they use all the safety advice concerning hand washing and so on. The latest advice is here if she wants to see it and she could speak to her boyfriend's specialist nurse for further advice.

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