Hi. My husband was diagnosed with Oesophageal Cancer last July. He's had six Chemo cycles and recently had an Oesophageal Stent fitted. We've been married for over 31 years with two grown up lads. I feel sad, frightened, angry and resentful in turn. I try to be positive and be cheerful, try not breaking down in front of him or our lads. I also feel selfish because I have the emotions above. When he was first diagnosed we were advised to enjoy life while we were able to which we have done with breaks away and spending time with friends. I don't want it to end.
Hi and welcome to the Community and to Carers, although I'm sorry to hear about your husband. Your emotions are all normal and you'll see how often members say that they 'feel selfish' for having those emotions. But you're not selfish; your feelings are a measure of the love you have for your husband. It's good to be making new memories and, while of course you 'don't want it to end', you will, I hope, have the comfort of the times you were able to share. I think it helps to have grown up children too. I don't like to talk much to my sons about their dad's difficult times but I know they're there if I need them and they do such a lot to help keep him cheerful, like humorous text messaging and meals out together.
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Hugs,
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